Sep 4Sexual freedom is IndivisibleIn his autobiography, Long Walk to Freedom, Nelson Mandela said that “Freedom is indivisible.” (scroll down for full quote and attribution) The concept has been embraced and echoed around the globe by all people struggling for their human rights: either there is equal freedom for all or no one is…Sexual Freedom6 min read
Aug 26Doctors ignoring Sexual Health — Most Doctors Don’t Know DickEvery once in a while, I like to focus on the most important thing: your sexual health. This is one of those times. I was reading my morning newsletters and cracked up to see this subject heading.Sexual Health7 min read
Aug 12Abnormal Sexuality Isn’t — Dr. Gloria BrameAfter posting Names for Sex Problems the other week, I got email from someone who said that they identified with many of the problems on the list. It touched my heart. The reason I got into studying sex on a professional level was to help shed some truth on a…Abnormal Sex6 min read
Jul 28Names for Sex Problems — Dr. Gloria BrameCommon Sex Problems Need Names We have clinical terms to describe sexual dysfunctions. However, there are common sexual complaints that we don’t have names for. It’s a pity we don’t have good names for sex problems that so many face. As a sex therapist, I find myself repeating and re-explaining these common problems to my…Sexuality11 min read
Jun 13Leaving a Toxic Relationship part 2 — How to Exit Safely — Dr. Gloria BrameI Know Toxic My first time leaving a toxic relationship, the guy I escaped stalked me for years. Another threatened to kill me. He staked out the safe space I’d fled to with a gun in his car. As you can imagine, those experiences created all kinds of chaos for me. Where would…Toxic Relationships5 min read
Jun 3Leaving a Toxic Relationship part 1 — Barb’s Awakening — Dr. Gloria BrameLet’s meet Barb An attractive woman in her 30s ZOOMed into view. Barb had reached out to me to help her overcome her inability to orgasm with her husband. She’d given me the basic details in email, where she’d felt brave enough to write her story in frank words. Face-to-face, she was shy. …Toxic Relationships7 min read
May 23Submission and Feminism Are Not Contradictions — Dr. Gloria BrameSubmission and feminism — the seeming paradox “How can I act so submissive to a man?” my client fretted. “How can I be submissive and still claim to be a feminist? If any of my friends knew what I do for Master, even that I call him that, they’d . . .” The words trailed off, and…4 min read
May 25 ways to die from sex“Omg, don’t do BDSM! It’s dangerous!” Sure grandma, thanks, we know. But did you know that plain old conventional sex can be fatal? Yes, people die from sex even without whips and chains. The BDSM/kink education system prepares people to be vigilant about playing safely by mitigating risk factors. …Sex7 min read
Apr 21Ethical Power Exchange RelationshipsA (very) Short Primer on Ethical Power Exchange One of the most important lessons to be learned from BDSM/Kink is how to use power ethically. Nowhere does that come up more than in power exchange relationships. As we learn ethics in kink, first we learn that consent is a whole lot more than a person merely saying yes…5 min read
Apr 7Self-actualization through accepting our kink38 years ago, I finally, reluctantly, accepted the truth about myself: I was kinky AF. It’s not as if I’d ever forgotten that I tied myself up to masturbate as a teen, I just stubbornly refused to define it as kinky. …5 min read
