Sep 15Are Sex Fantasies Dangerous? — Dr. Gloria BrameDo you ever feel conflicted about your sex fantasies? Like perhaps they’re “too extreme”? Do you sometimes wonder if your sex fantasies are dangerous? It’s a conflict my clients have often voiced. They are turned on when they have certain fantasies but once the thrill-ride is over they view themselves…Sex Fantasies5 min readSex Fantasies5 min read
Aug 29Digging Up the Roots of Performance AnxietyWhen people use the term “performance anxiety,” they usually mean male bodies who can’t get it up. But did you know that performance anxiety is a universal experience? It can happen to people of all genders, striking young and old alike, though it’s most prominent in the middle-aged. Let’s unpack…Sexual Health6 min readSexual Health6 min read
Aug 10Sexy at Any Age, 7 Tips to Keep it GoingDid you ever notice that some people still look sexy at 60 or older, while others look distinctly unsexy by the time they’re in their 40s? How can those lucky people manage to be sexy at any age? What’s their secret? Is it all in the genes? Are they taking…Sexual Health7 min readSexual Health7 min read
Jul 27Conscious BDSM — 7 Golden RulesWhat is Conscious BDSM? So you’re doing kink, but something’s wrong. You or your partners feel off, icky, disrespected. What’s missing? Consciousness. Conscious BDSM is when you intentionally honor all aspects of your existence: your sexual and biological nature; your emotional and psychological nature; your physical presentation; and your deep beliefs about the kind…Ethical Bdsm6 min readEthical Bdsm6 min read
Jul 17What makes a balanced sex life?Have you ever wondered what people mean when they say “too much sex,” “too much porn,” or “not enough sex (or porn)?” What does a balanced sex life look like? Common sense suggests that what is “too much” for some people could be just enough for one partner or too…Sex Life5 min readSex Life5 min read
Jul 5Is BDSM Therapy?A client recently told me that they’re dating someone with personality issues — and who believes that BDSM play would be better than therapy to fix those issues. Er…let’s just say it’s not going very well. You’ve probably heard or read about people who have heralded the idea that doing…Therapy7 min readTherapy7 min read
Jun 14Is being queer contagious?A Position Without Evidence Anti-gay activists would have you believe that being sexually different is a choice. The theory is that people can be “infected” or “groomed” by exposure to anything LGBTQIA+, from books and movies to people and rainbow symbols. They think that being queer is contagious, caught from being around LGBT people…LGBTQ6 min readLGBTQ6 min read
May 27Get the Most out of Therapy with these 5 StrategiesHow to Get the Most Out of Therapy Therapy is expensive. But you know what costs even more? Suffering from problems that suck the joy out of life. Every year, I see patients who hit their goals in just 3 months. Meanwhile, others take years to achieve similar success. …Therapy6 min readTherapy6 min read
May 2How to Have Hard BDSM ConversationsNegotiating Change in BDSM Relationships Sooner or later in kinky relationships, you will feel the time has come to address something that’s been bothering you about the path you’re on. Maybe you’re not getting enough BDSM play. Perhaps your partner’s attitude has changed. …BDSM7 min readBDSM7 min read
Apr 18The Importance of TouchThe Need for Good Touch is Hard-Wired A lover’s kiss. A friend’s hugs. A pet’s snuggles. What do they all have in common? New research published by the Zuckerman Institute, “Origins of Pleasurable Touch Traced from Skin to Brain in Mice,” shows that simple touches on skin travel to the brain’s pleasure centers. When living creatures feel…New Research5 min readNew Research5 min read
